Growing up you may have heard the phrase “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me?” As a child, I never understood that concept because words do hurt and they hurt especially when they are coming from someone that you care about or whose option you value. How are we to have tough skin and let things roll off our backs? How do we become less sensitive to the opinion of others? God promised that he would never leave us nor forsake us and we are promised resilience because he takes every single bad and negative thing that happens to us and turns it into something good. It turns into a lesson learned; it increases our faith and allows us to relate to others. (James 1:2)
Here are 6 ways to move towards your resilience.
1. First things first, you are a child of the God who created the universe! (Genesis1:1) You don’t need to receive any thing negative from anyone else- even your family or those closest to you! One important thing to remember is that you know your worth and just because someone else says something about you does not mean that it is true.
2. Evaluate if the individual is giving you constructive criticism to improve your life or putting you down. One great way to evaluate something is to ask yourself. Does this line up with something that God would tell me? Does this line up with things God has told others in the bible?
3. Realize that their opinion is not going to kill you; you have the power to ignore them. As a matter of fact when they say something that is ugly to you just say, “cancel” in your head and then address them about the comments they are saying if necessary. Let them know how their comments make you feel. If you feel as if they are being inappropriate ask God to give you the words to address the situation.
4. Realize that the only person who can live your life is you. You were created by God to be here for a purpose, he wants us to be our best. (Jeremiah 29:11). You are in control of your life and you have the power to choose what to accept and what not to accept.
5. Mediate on what God says about you everyday. Read scriptures that concern Gods calling on your life and ask God to help you to focus on what is important in life.
Allow people that talk about you and gossip about you to be your Personal Emotional Trainers (PETS). These are people that strengthen your ability to respond to things as Christ would. This process will not happen overnight, allow God to lead you as you deal with others on a daily basis.